Surviving Silly Season – your guide
As the holiday season approaches, the air is filled with excitement and joy. And yet, for so many of us mums, it can also bring an overwhelming sense of stress. We all know that Christmas can be a stress inducing time of year and yet sometimes we need that annual reminder to just take a breath and slow down. Surviving and thriving in the silly season takes presence and practice!
Here in Australia, that summer vibe also brings those beach and poolside playdates into action which is fun. But for some, the thought of getting into bikinis or swimwear can make our anxiety rise along with the heat!
This used to be me, I would think what is everyone going to think of me? and, ‘what if people see me with my swimmers on?
I get it, I really do. But now I don’t care at all. Now, I embrace it and love being at the beach or in the pool with the family. Don’t miss out on the fun times, your kids remember you jumping in the waves not what swimsuit you had on!
Between the endless to-do lists, family gatherings and the pressure to create magical moments, it’s easy to feel like you’re drowning in a sea of holiday madness.
I hear you! So I wanted to gift you this guide “Surviving and Thriving in the Silly Season” to help you navigate the festive frenzy and find moments of peace and joy amongst the hustle and bustle.
Thriving in the Silly Season – alleviate the pressure
Be proactive – there is no point denying the fact that Christmas is coming and along with it a whole heap of potential pressure. It happens but once a year but we seem to end up in the same old habits and patterns as if it were a ‘complete surprise’. This year, let’s make a plan and take actionable steps together to change how this story unfolds.
- Prioritise YOU
Ahhh, this PHRASE gets thrown around a fair bit but yes, it’s true. No, you’re not being selfish. It may be difficult but it’s crucial to prioritise self-care.
Remember that you cannot pour from an empty cup and taking care of yourself is not a luxury but a necessity.
Schedule regular breaks to recharge, even if it’s just a few moments of deep breathing or a quick walk around the block. Consider delegating tasks and don’t be afraid to ask for help. Taking care of yourself is not selfish; it’s an investment in your well-being and your ability to show up for your loved ones.
Set Realistic Expectations
- Don’t try to cram too much in
One of the biggest sources of stress during the holidays is often the pressure to create picture-perfect celebrations. Remember that it’s okay not to have everything perfectly planned or flawlessly executed. Set realistic expectations for yourself and your family and don’t try to cram too much in (this used to be me). I would fly back to the UK for Christmas and have anxiety trying to get to our next catch up, not worth it.
Remember your kids and family will remember the fun, games and laughter far more than the immaculately wrapped presents or the perfectly decorated tree.
- Ask yourself – what is truly important?
While traditions are such an important part of the Christmas and family time, it’s essential to recognise when they become overwhelming and spoil the experience. Focus on the traditions that bring the most joy to your family and let go of the ones that add unnecessary stress. Creating a more streamlined holiday experience can lead to a more enjoyable and relaxed atmosphere for everyone. Some of mine are getting in our Christmas Pj’s on Christmas Eve and having rum butter on toast and a buck’s fizz on Christmas morning!
Learn to Say No
- Setting those boundaries
It’s okay to say no, especially during the holidays. Whether it’s declining a party invitation, or passing on additional commitments, setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining your sanity. Remember that it’s perfectly acceptable to prioritise your well-being and the well-being of your family over external expectations. Saying no allows you to focus on what truly matters and prevents burnout.
- Take a deep breath
Perfection is an unrealistic standard, especially during the holiday season. Embrace imperfections and find beauty in the messy and chaotic moments. Your house can be a mess with toys, look at how much fun you kids are having.
Your family won’t remember the perfectly arranged table settings, but they will remember the fun, love, and happiness!
Give yourself permission to let go of the need for perfection and savour the imperfect, beautiful moments that make the holidays truly special.
Wishing a very Happy Festive Season!