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Why it’s important to drop the mum guilt

Published May 31st, 2022 by

Emma Bunting

If you’re experiencing mum guilt, it’s completely normal. Being a mum is one of the hardest and most rewarding things a woman will ever do. Unfortunately, we can be so hard on ourselves when it comes to having a break away from our children – which is one of the main mum guilt triggers.

Why it’s important to drop the mum guilt

If you’re experiencing mum guilt, it’s completely normal. But beating yourself up for feeling guilty will only make matters worse.

Being a mum is one of the hardest and most rewarding things a woman will ever do. Unfortunately, as mums, we can be so hard on ourselves when it comes to having a break away from our children – which is one of the main mum guilt triggers.

The thought of heading out for a coffee or wine with a friend sounds so appealing. Normal things that pre kids we wouldn’t have given a second thought to like getting a massage or a haircut, now suddenly stops us in our tracks. Mum Guilt is sneaky, it can pounce on you from out of nowhere. It feels like an almighty pressure coming down upon us as when we go to book an appointment or dedicate some time-out for ourselves and it really needs to go out of our lives!

How can we feel free of the burden of Mum Guilt?

  1. Give yourself permission to ‘take time out’ regularly

The saying goes ‘you can’t pour from an empty cup’. Make time for yourself, prioritise YOU. Book yourself a lunch or nail date with a friend on the weekend. If you can have a few hours away from being a mum, it helps you refocus and be a better mum!

  1. Don’t be afraid to ask for help  

Don’t wait until you are feeling overwhelmed and exhausted to shout for help. Ask or accept help before you get to that point. Say yes when a friend offers to take bub or bring you a coffee – it might just ease some pressure. It’s easy to say ‘I’m fine’ but giving you that small bit of extra help might give you some relief and alleviate the guilt.

  1. Try to understand what is triggering the guilt

What’s triggering you to feel this way? Is it because you’ve had no time away from bub? The thought of being without bub makes you feel strange. Is it a feeling of not living up to unrealistic expectations we set on ourselves? Explore the feelings of guilt and see if you can peel back the layers of the onion to find out really what is the root cause of this guilty sensation.

  1. Talk to someone friend or family member

Have a chat to someone close to you, talking it out and getting some advice might help you see it in a different way. Also, you could reach out to COPE for additional support and help.

  1. Join a group of like-minded mums

Join a mum’s group or a mum’s exercise group so you can chat with other mums in your situation, this might make you feel better knowing that everyone is going through hard times. You could even arrange a coffee (or wine) together with a new bunch of mums.

And remember, you are doing your best and you deserve a rest – whenever you need it.

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Written by

Emma Bunting
MumSafe™ Trainer at 
Motivate Mums

About the Author

Emma’s mission is to help mums feel the happiest and healthiest they’ve ever been, to feel amazing about themselves, and to be a good role model to their children. Motivate Mums is about having fun and having a smile on your face while you exercise, Emma wants to create a community feel if Emma sees mums having fun and are happy she feels like she has done her job well.

It’s not just about losing weight, if you exercise, you’re happy, you re-build from the inside out everything else will fall into place.

Emma’s mission is to help mums feel the happiest and healthiest they’ve ever been, to feel amazing about themselves, and to be a good role model to their children. Motivate Mums is about having fun and having a smile on your face while you exercise, Emma wants to create a community feel if Emma sees mums having fun and are happy she feels like she has done her job well.

It’s not just about losing weight, if you exercise, you’re happy, you re-build from the inside out everything else will fall into place.?