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8 realistic self-care goals for new mums

Published Nov 5th, 2020 by

Carly Steggles

If you think, 'I don’t have time for self-care, I’m a new mum!' this list is for you. Carly Steggles shares some achievable goals and proves that every little counts when it comes to looking after yourself in those first few months of motherhood. How many can you tick off for yourself this week?

8 realistic self-care goals for new mums

Wait! Before you eye roll and think ‘I don’t have time for self-care, I’m a new mum!’ this list really is achievable. Every little counts when it comes to looking after yourself and maintaining your sanity during those first few months of motherhood.

How many can you tick off for yourself this week?

Side-note: I don’t like the phrase ‘self-care’ either! It’s one of those trendy, over-used words alongside ‘wellness’, ‘holistic’, ‘new-normal’ and ‘pivoting’ in 2020! But, the intention is there with the phrase – these little achievable goals are to prioritise YOU, as we all know we can’t pour from an empty cup.

1. Make your shower luxurious

It doesn’t have to be every day 😉, but when you do manage to escape for that precious 7 minutes of alone time in the shower, make it bloody worth it! Splash out on the expensive shower gel or hair treatment and use it guilt-free so (for 7 precious stolen minutes at least) you feel like a million dollars.

2. Go outside

Being outdoors can lift the mood, lower anxiety, improve memory (hello baby brain!), lower blood pressure, enhance immune system function, increase Vitamin D exposure and reduce stress. As hard as it is on some days to even think about leaving the house, mums need all of these things in spades and you will definitely feel better for it. Mental health walks (and pram pushes) are totally a thing!

3. Give yourself permission to say NO

If you don’t want to let the neighbour come round to visit, meet the sister-in-law for coffee, catch up with a colleague for a walk, go to another baby music/gym/swim lesson or hook up again with your Mothers’ Group, YOU DON’T HAVE TO! One outing or activity a day is plenty for a sleep-deprived new mum – revel in the joy of missing out, put yourself first and in the words of Marie Kondo: say no to anything that doesn’t spark a little joy.

4. Move

This doesn’t have to be a full-on exercise class (although we know of some pretty good MumSafe™ ones specifically for new mums!) but a little movement in the form of a walk, yoga, swim or dance goes a long way to making you feel energised and like you can achieve anything the day of parenting ahead will throw at you. Yep, even the laundry pile!

5. Do something each week alone

Whether it is cooking a meal, going for a walk, doing a yoga class, meeting a friend for coffee or watching a whole episode of The Crown uninterrupted – do something each week totally alone, without a baby or toddler hanging from any body parts. Something, anything, that makes you feel like the ‘old you’ – we promise, you are still in there!

6. Ditch third-party advice (unless it’s this blog 😉)

Don’t Google. Take or leave any advice given by well-meaning family and friends. Trust your gut and do what works for you and baby. The phrase “happy mum, happy baby” is used a lot but equally “happy baby, happy mum”. If your baby needs a dummy, rocking or cuddles to sleep then go for it – there is no (official or universal!) rule book. Giving yourself that freedom will maintain the sanity!

7. Breathe

Quite possibly the hardest one of the list, especially if you have a toddler in tow as well as a newborn! Think of it as a little game – when you are getting wound up by a situation, can you breathe, observe and learn, rather than react and respond? And if not….

8. Drink the wine and eat the chocolate

The End.

 

Carly Steggles is the owner of Buggy Bootcamp in Manly, Sydney, and has been keeping new mums sane with safe, effective and social post-natal exercise since 2012. To find out more about her and get in touch, click here.

You can also find her on Instagram.

If you are a new mum returning to exercise and are not sure where to start check out our FREE Safe Return to Exercise for New Mums program to learn all you need to know.

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Carly Steggles
MumSafe™ Trainer at 
Buggy Bootcamp

About the Author

To keep Mums sane! Carly believes exercise should be about feeling good, more energised and ready for the day ahead. Her groups are definitely not about weight loss or getting back into your pre-baby jeans – she prefers to focus on all the other health and well-being benefits group exercise brings to that tough first year of Motherhood.

As a new Mum herself, Carly understands how important it is to get out of the house, move and connect with other Mums to feel better after a crummy night’s sleep and more ready for the day of Motherhood ahead. She wanted to make it as easy as possible for new Mums to safely exercise and therefore created a welcoming, affordable and flexible exercise option for Mums and their new babies at Buggy Bootcamp.

Carly is also passionate about spreading the ‘pelvic floor safe’ message and believes that everyone CAN get back to the high intensity exercise that they may love – but that it may take time to re-build strength from the inside-out. She also encourages all Mums to see a Women’s Health physio after giving birth, even if it ‘feels fine’ – she believes it is better to be safe than sorry and a check will mean you can exercise with the peace of mind that you are not causing any damage for yourself further down the track.

To keep Mums sane! Carly believes exercise should be about feeling good, more energised and ready for the day ahead. Her groups are definitely not about weight loss or getting back into your pre-baby jeans – she prefers to focus on all the other health and well-being benefits group exercise brings to that tough first year of Motherhood.

As a new Mum herself, Carly understands how important it is to get out of the house, move and connect with other Mums to feel better after a crummy night’s sleep and more ready for the day of Motherhood ahead. She wanted to make it as easy as possible for new Mums to safely exercise and therefore created a welcoming, affordable and flexible exercise option for Mums and their new babies at Buggy Bootcamp.

Carly is also passionate about spreading the ‘pelvic floor safe’ message and believes that everyone CAN get back to the high intensity exercise that they may love – but that it may take time to re-build strength from the inside-out. She also encourages all Mums to see a Women’s Health physio after giving birth, even if it ‘feels fine’ – she believes it is better to be safe than sorry and a check will mean you can exercise with the peace of mind that you are not causing any damage for yourself further down the track.?